By Simon Bell
Most of the time we are looking for something. From a lost key to a new career. Seeking. I know I am often seeking. To seek: a verb meaning to attempt to find something.
Here are some definitions. To start with an example of seeking: “they came to seek shelter from biting winter winds”. To seek includes the idea of looking to find. Or seeking might be articulated as an: attempt or desire to obtain or achieve something. For example: “the new regime sought his extradition”. We might go further, seeking means to ask for something from someone, e.g. “he sought help from the police”.
The seeking process implies two things. A seeker and the sought. Subject and object. But, there is more to it than that. Between the seeker and the sought, in the gap inbetween, is the seeking, the finding, the obtaining, the asking. The quality of the seeking.
Finding, obtaining and asking are the quality requirements for the seeker to find the sought.
Now, generally speaking, we do not think about all of this. When I am looking for something I do not consciously hold in my head: “I am the seeker wishing to find, obtain or ask for the sought”. I just go and seek. Maybe that is why I often don’t find what I am looking for? Maybe I could be more precise in my seeking? Maybe it would help?
Problems abound in any seeking process. Here are a few questions which regularly arise.
- Who is the seeker? Is this clear?
- What is being sought? Is there one thing or many?
- Do all the seekers agree on what is being sought?
- How is the process of finding, obtaining and asking being organised?
- What is the process?
Here are two short examples which may help to make a case for some qualities of seeking.
Example 1. They had set out but had no idea of what the destination looked like. All of them were fearful of what they might find but they had not talked about their fears. There was an iron leader, and his direction of travel had emerged as a consequence of past failures.
Example 2. They had all agreed on the destination, means and route and how they would know when they arrived. The various tasks which the journey suggested had been allocated to members of the team and there had been debate over who was prepared to do what.
Who found the South Pole?
When you have finished the story give the following questions a little thought:
- How is the story meaningful to you?
- How is this meaning relevant to your life?
- What value does this relevance have in terms of how you may change?
- What Insight follows from the sense of value to change?
- How will you change?
Of course, it is good to think, how will you know if your change has worked?
Artwork © Rachel Furze